How to Stop Doing Too Much as a Christian Woman

Why I Stopped Trying to Do It All (And What I Do Instead)

To stop doing too much as a Christian woman, start by asking what God has put in front of you this season. Then let go of the rest. Ecclesiastes 3 reminds us there is a time for everything, not a time for everything at once. Pick a few things that matter, and rest in that.

I used to keep a list for everything. A list for the garden. A list for the house. A list for church, work, and family.

And every night, I went to bed feeling behind.

Maybe you know that feeling. You work a long shift, come home, and still try to can, bake, clean, and plan. It never feels like enough.

This October, I'm doing something different. I'm doing less, on purpose. Here's why, and what I do instead.

What does it mean to live intentionally as a Christian woman?

Living intentionally means choosing your days on purpose, with God first. You say yes to what matters and no to the rest.

It is not about a perfect schedule. It's about asking, "Lord, what is mine to do today?"

For me, that means fewer projects and more presence. I'd rather make one good pot of soup with joy than five dishes in a rush.

"To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven." — Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV)

That verse changed how I see my to-do list. Not everything belongs in this season.

Why am I always busy and never at peace?

Most of us feel busy because we try to live several seasons at once. We plant, harvest, and rest all in the same week.

Homesteading makes this easy to do. There is always one more thing. A fence to fix. A jar to fill. A chore that "should" get done.

Add work, family, and church, and it piles up fast. Being busy doesn't mean you're failing. It means it's time to set some things down.

How do I stop feeling like I have to do everything?

You stop by deciding ahead of time what matters most. Then you give yourself permission to let the rest wait.

Here is the simple plan I use each week.

Pray first. Before I write a list, I sit with a warm cup of Dried Chamomile Flowers tea and ask God what matters this week.
Write it all down. Get every task out of your head and onto paper. It feels lighter right away.
Pick your top three. Circle three things that truly matter. These are your must-dos.
Move the rest. Put the other tasks on a "later" list. Later is not never.
Say one kind no. Turn down one thing you don't need to do. Say it kindly and mean it.
Make room for rest. Block one quiet hour with no chores. Guard it like a doctor's appointment.
Look back on Saturday. Thank God for what got done. Let go of what didn't.

When I first tried this, I was surprised. The world kept turning. The chickens still got fed. And I felt more like myself.

Here's what changed in my own home.

What does the Bible say about rest?

The Bible says rest is a gift from God, not a prize you earn. God rested on the seventh day, and He invites us to rest too.

"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." — Matthew 11:28 (KJV)

Jesus didn't say, "Come to me once your list is done." He said come. Tired. Behind. Just as you are.

Rest can be small. Five quiet minutes with your Bible counts. So does a slow walk out to the coop.

How can a cup of tea become a slow-living habit?

A cup of loose leaf herbal tea makes you pause. You can't rush it. You heat the water, wait, and breathe.

That small wait has become one of my favorite parts of the day. It's my cue to put the list down.

In the evening, I reach for chamomile or our Panic & Anxiety Ease Herbal Tea blend. The dried flowers smell sweet, a little like apples and honey. Chamomile is caffeine-free, so it fits any time of day.

Here's how I brew one cup:

Heat 1 cup of water until it just starts to boil.
Add 1 to 2 teaspoons of dried chamomile flowers to a tea ball or strainer.
Pour the hot water over the flowers.
Cover your mug and let it steep for 5 minutes.
Strain, then add a little honey if you like.

If you are pregnant, nursing, or taking medicine, check with your doctor before drinking herbal tea.

What does a slower October look like on a small homestead?

A slower October means doing the few fall tasks that truly need doing. Then you enjoy the season instead of racing through it.

This month, I'll put the garden beds to bed. I'll stack some wood. I'll make one batch of apple butter.

Then I'll stop. I'll sit on the porch while the light turns gold and the pines go quiet.

You don't need acres or a farm background to live this way. A small yard, a few chickens, and a willing heart are plenty.

Shop the herb: Bath Soak with Chamomile Flowers Sweet and apple-like, chamomile makes a gentle, relaxing vibe for quiet fall evenings.

FAQ

Is it wrong for a Christian woman to rest? No. God rested on the seventh day and gave us the Sabbath as a gift. Rest is part of how He made us.

How do I say no without feeling guilty? Keep it short and kind. Try, "Thank you for thinking of me, but I can't this season." You don't owe a long reason.

What is Ecclesiastes 3 about? Ecclesiastes 3 teaches that life moves in seasons. There is a time to plant, a time to harvest, and a time to rest.

How do you make chamomile tea from dried flowers? Steep 1 to 2 teaspoons of dried chamomile in 1 cup of hot water for 5 minutes. Strain and sweeten if you like.

Is chamomile tea caffeine-free? Yes. Chamomile is an herbal tea made from flowers, not tea leaves, so it has no caffeine.

Friend, you were never meant to do it all. You were meant to do what matters, with the time God gives you.

"He hath made every thing beautiful in his time." — Ecclesiastes 3:11 (KJV)

So this week, pick your three. Let the rest wait. And when the evening comes, put the kettle on.

If you'd like a cup to go with your quiet hour, our Dried Chamomile Flowers are waiting on the shelf. And if you're curious about other herbs, start with our Apothecary.

See you on the porch.